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When we create life in a Tantric space of merging - with connected, loving, expanded lovemaking - we can conceive a baby that feels loved even in the womb. Goddess, in her infinite wisdom, decided to join pleasure and creation together. When two people, joined in love, move and expand their sexual energy until all the cells of their body vibrate with a powerful mixture of sex and spirit, they can reach the highest level of ecstasy.mo.gov When your body is full of love you can empower your intention to give birth to a baby.nih.gov Tantra suggests that you visualize the strongest sperm of the man succeeding in its glorious journey to unite with the Ovum of the woman to conceive a wonderful spiritual/sexual being.
Sadly, however, not all babies were consciously created. You yourself might have been a product of an accident; an ejaculation that happened too soon, or as a result of sex that wasn't connected and loving. Perhaps you were not really wanted - maybe your parents were not ready to conceive, and yet did. In the womb, you absorbed the pain or confusion your mother felt, and this has, on some level -usually subconscious- been in your body and will later affect your attitude to sex and your ability to be intimate. The first breath as you come out of the womb might have been taken in fear - giving birth can be a painful and fearful time for many mothers. As a baby you are very susceptible to the environment you come into and how you are treated.
If you are not being taken care of and nurtured the way this little bundle of spirit and flesh deserves to be, this can be deeply wounding. Later in life, this wound may influence your ability to trust that you are loved and protected. If you cannot trust, your emotional growth can be stunted. If sexually unhealthy adults touch you inappropriately as a toddler or child your body can go into shock, while at the same time absorbing the shame and guilt of your abuser. A healthy child has no shame. Healthy children feel good to be alive and to experiment with their own body and their environment without judgment. Inappropriate sexual touching of a child can be painful, shameful and pleasurable at the same time, which can create confusion around sex.
Pleasure, guilt and shame merge together to create the first unhealthy marriage within your psyche. The most efficient way to restore the innocence of sex in a person whose boundaries were not respected growing up is through Tantric healing. Tantra gives us the most powerful tools to free you from the burden of guilt and shame. Tantra suggests that pleasure is good and that sex is an innocent energy that wants to be expressed by consenting people. Obviously a child does not have the ability to make those choices. When you are abused sexually - that means used in some way to satisfy the lust of someone else without your consent - you feel powerless. I am not going to list here the myriad wounds that can occur from sexual abuse. The bottom line is that both the perpetrator and the victim separate sex from love.
Sometimes, issues or wounding around sex are a result of shame or guilt that you have inherited from family of origin or absorbed by culture. Whatever the wounding is, Tantra can help you free yourself to be the men and women you came to this life to express. The Tantric therapeutic approach to healing is powerful because it goes beyond acknowledging and talking about the abuse and/or the internalized shame. Children who were abused at a pre-verbal age cannot even verbalize what happened. When clients come to me I create a Tantric environment of safety, warmth, beauty, acceptance and nurturing. This, together with the Ocean Breath, cuts through the mental noise that keeps you from feeling your uncomfortable internal climate.
Within a few minutes you will feel comfortable enough to tune into yourself and really feel what is happening in your body: what emotions are stirring you, and where you may have blocks that impede the free flow of energy. We would connect softly through soul gazing until you feel accepted unconditionally so you can trust to be yourself with me. Trust is the absolute prerequisite to any kind of healing. In this safe space I will offer the basic keys of Tantra and you can easily feel the power of these teachings and how they are natural. If there are blocks in the energy system, with your permission we will explore together any past traumas that may be preventing you from fully accessing your vibrant sensual, sexual nature.
I observe the way you breathe, the way you look at me or avoid looking at me, the way your body moves, the way you change your tone of voice. I’ll wait for you to invite me into your psyche to see what is the best way to help you access the memory if necessary and to start the healing process. Sometimes it is not necessary to access the memory. Many clients can free themselves from old wounds just by feeling and melting the blocks. They are ready to move on and receive the fulfillment in life they have always longed for.indeed.com All they needed was a safe and nurturing place and person they could trust to guide them through their healing. When sex and spirit feel united, there emerges a new you: a healthy being that can bring light and harmony to yourself and others around you.
Everything is Spirit, even our bodies. The body is really just a ‘slower moving Spirit’. Our sexuality mixed with our spirituality is at the core of our being: they are inseparable on a body level. They are only separate from the ego’s point of view. Kundulini energy, your psycho-spiritual energy, (or Shakti) is usually coiled at the base of the spine. When Tantric techniques clear the chakras the Kundulini can move upward along the spinal column to heal and nourish the whole body before meeting Pure Consciousness (or Shiva) at the crown chakra. When Shiva and Shakti merge, you enter an incredibly pleasurable space beyond the ego separation and beyond time. Tantra gives us the tools necessary to reach this high place of ecstasy and merging, having freed our bodies from old trauma and pain. This is an enlightened space.
Author's Bio: Carla Tara is an internationally-acclaimed teacher of Tantra, who masterfully integrates a variety of Tantric approaches with body-oriented psychotherapy. She has studied with several Eastern and Western masters. Over the last 20 years, Carla has developed a successful private practice which incorporates her training in psychotherapy, Tantra and relationship counseling alongside her skills as a yoga teacher and Tango dancer. She has assisted thousands of people in finding deeper intimacy with their partners, learning new communication tools, and in unlocking their Divine sexual energy. Jen Rosewood (Insurance) Thanks for the article on a delicate subject! Please Register or Login to post new comment. Relationships: Can Someone's Need To Save Others Have A Negative Effect On Their Relationships? Here are some easy fixes! Why Did My Girlfriend Flirt with my Friend? Top 3 Reasons Why some women don’t have orgasms ! How you can change that! EMPLOYEE MOTIVATION -- RIP OFF THE BANDAIDS!
What is this page about? Sexual abuse statistics are one way we can develop a picture of the extent of the problem of child sexual abuse or sexual assault in our community. They can help us to understand better who is assaulted, where, when, what are potential risk factors, where to direct resources to prevent further childhood sexual abuse or assault, and ensure adequate support is available. The Sexual abuse statistics below provide a general snapshot of the reported prevalence, identified characteristics of sexual abuse and sexual assault of males. The statistics provided here are drawn from research studies and Government statistics.
A description of common problems that men subjected to sexual violence may experience can be found in the ‘Managing difficulties’ section of the Living Well website. Details on the under-reporting and barriers to disclosure of child sexual abuse and male sexual assault can be found in the ‘Disclosure’ section. Also more information regarding specific statistics can be found within the ‘References and additional information’ section found at the end of this webpage. For those unfamiliar with statistics, an extensive discussion of how to read and make sense of statistics relating to the sexual abuse of males can be found at ‘Child Abuse: Statistics, Research and Resources’.
When reading this information it is useful to remember that statistics operate as a general guide; whatever the statistics say, every person will have their own particular story to tell. Although most early studies of child sexual abuse and sexual assault focused on females, there is now a developing body of literature that provides information on the sexual victimisation of males. We have deliberately included some information relating to the sexual abuse of females as a way of highlighting how gender influences the prevalence, characteristics and experience of sexual abuse or sexual assault. Definitions of child sexual abuse can vary. This variance may be attributed to differences in legal definitions between countries, or differences in defining acts that amount to child sexual abuse within studies.
A simplified definition of child sexual abuse includes: Sexual act/s, including, physical, verbal or visual acts, committed by an adult towards a child. Prevalence rates can vary, depending on the definition of sexual abuse used and the population participating in the research. 3% - 17% - Systematic review of 55 studies between 2002-2009 from 24 countries not including Australia or New Zealand.loyolaphoenix.com 8% - 30% - Various international studies, including a meta analysis of 22 countries. 4% - 76% - Meta analysis of 166 studies of males sexually abused in childhood. 3% - 29% - Analysis of 21 countries. 4% - 31% - Australian study. Some boys can be more susceptible to sexual abuse. Has a disability.- He is between 4 and 7 times more likely to be sexually abused than a non-disabled peer.
In the "Little Children are Sacred" Report, anecdotal evidence, case studies and submissions suggest that sexual violence in indigenous communities occurs at rates that exceed those of non-indigenous communities. Prevalence of childhood sexual abuse is higher among gay and bisexual men than heterosexual men. Where, when, and by whom is child sexual abuse of males likely to occur? Abused outside the home. Abused by a stranger. Subjected to extra familial abuse. Abused by a female or male and female together. This means the pie chart below shows age of victims when they reported crimes, and may not be indicative of the age of victims when sexual abuse / assault occurred.
This shows males were more likely to be victims of sexual assault/abuse between the age of 5-19, similar to the figures shown in the pie chart above. Over 30% of confirmed reports of child sexual abuse involve male victims. Most sexual abuse of males begins before puberty, typically around 10 years.mass.gov Boys younger than six are at greater risk of abuse by family and acquaintances.. Boys older than 12 years face an increased risk of abuse by strangers. Risk of sexual assault declines for adult men relative to adult women. Threats of force and physical harm increased with age and male perpetration. Research has shown that sibling incest has been estimated to be at least 5 times more prevalent than parent-child incest.
Female perpetrated sexual abuse is thought to be a relatively rare phenomenon compared to male perpetrated sexual abuse. Males are less likely to identify sexual contact they had with an adult woman when they were a child as sexual abuse. In over 90% of reported cases, females use persuasion rather than actual or threatened force when committing an offence of sexual abuse. Up to one third of boys who identify as being abused say curiosity led to their participation in sexual contact with older females. The Personal Safety Survey was the first national survey to attempt collection of sexual abuse statistics regarding males on a national level.
Prior to this, the Australian Bureau of Statistics (ABS) only collected data regarding sexual assaults via the Women’s Safety Survey.vawnet.org 5.5% of men reported experiencing sexual violence after the age of 15, compared to 19% of women. 0.6% of males and 1.6% of females reported sexual assault or sexual threat in the past 12 months. Both men (44%) and women (39%) reported sexual assault by a family member or friend in the most recent incident. Men (33%) were more likely than women (22%) to experience sexual assault by a stranger in the most recent incident. 1 in 4 New South Wales prisoners aged 18-25 years reported being sexually assaulted in prison.cnn.com Queensland corrective service does not provide statistics of the number of sexual offences that occur in prison in its annual report.
There has been a 16% increase in reporting sexual assault in Afghanistan and Iraq according to United States Statistics. Approximately 50% of transgendered individuals report unwanted sexual activity within their lifetime. 19.6% of gay identifying men reported being forced to have sex by their partner. 14.3% of transgender males reported being forced to have sex by their partner. 25% of intersex males reported being forced to have sex by their partner. One of the difficulties in establishing a picture of the extent and circumstances of childhood sexual abuse and male sexual assault is under-reporting. Males are particularly reluctant to report childhood sexual abuse as both a child and project adult.
N1 - This paper is reprinted in Levine, M. L. (ed.) Mental illness, medicine and law. N2 - Within the last 10 years the concept of false memory syndrome (FMS) has entered the legal arena. It is a label increasingly used to describe and account for adults' recollection of sexual abuse committed against them during childhood. The phenomenon first appeared in the courts in 1994 in the U.S.theguardian.com Ramona v Isabella,1 and since then has appeared on numerous occasions in courts throughout the Anglo-American jurisdictions (including the United States, Canada, Scotland, and England, all of which feature in the present article). Vigorous debates have taken place within the academic and professional literatures across several disciplines (e.g., psychology, psychiatry, law) addressing the reliability of memory processes and their significance in legal testimony.
Ceci & Bruck, 1995, Conway, 1997, Lindsay & Read, 1995, Ofshe & Watters, 1994. R. Ofshe and E. Watters, Making monsters: False memories, psychotherapy, and sexual hysteria. Instead, this article explores the extent to which this phenomenon plays an increasingly important role in the legal construction of credibility, one of the determining features of a reliable witness in the courtroom. Determining that a witness is incredible is the most effective route to dismissing their testimony. Historically, there have been numerous rules of evidence and procedure that have had the effect of rendering the testimony of women and children incredible. Although attempts have been made (sometimes successfully) to dilute the impact of these rules, those that remain still adversely affect the manner in which testimony concerning sexual assault is received.
This article contends that the courtroom use of FMS is the latest in that tradition. It argues that those who bring charges concerning childhood abuse (most of whom are women) are disadvantaged, not primarily because of unreliable memory processes about traumatic events, but more importantly because of the historical tendency to doubt women's credibility. This distrust continues to be reflected in the contemporary debate surrounding FMS and is even exacerbated by the rules of evidence that allow testimony on the phenomenon into the courtroom. AB - Within the last 10 years the concept of false memory syndrome (FMS) has entered the legal arena. It is a label increasingly used to describe and account for adults' recollection of sexual abuse committed against them during childhood. The phenomenon first appeared in the courts in 1994 in the U.S.
Ramona v Isabella,1 and since then has appeared on numerous occasions in courts throughout the Anglo-American jurisdictions (including the United States, Canada, Scotland, and England, all of which feature in the present article). Vigorous debates have taken place within the academic and professional literatures across several disciplines (e.g., psychology, psychiatry, law) addressing the reliability of memory processes and their significance in legal testimony. Ceci & Bruck, 1995, Conway, 1997, Lindsay & Read, 1995, Ofshe & Watters, 1994. R. Ofshe and E. Watters, Making monsters: False memories, psychotherapy, and sexual hysteria. Instead, this article explores the extent to which this phenomenon plays an increasingly important role in the legal construction of credibility, one of the determining features of a reliable witness in the courtroom. Determining that a witness is incredible is the most effective route to dismissing their testimony.
Historically, there have been numerous rules of evidence and procedure that have had the effect of rendering the testimony of women and children incredible. Although attempts have been made (sometimes successfully) to dilute the impact of these rules, those that remain still adversely affect the manner in which testimony concerning sexual assault is received. This article contends that the courtroom use of FMS is the latest in that tradition. It argues that those who bring charges concerning childhood abuse (most of whom are women) are disadvantaged, not primarily because of unreliable memory processes about traumatic events, but more importantly because of the historical tendency to doubt women's credibility. This distrust continues to be reflected in the contemporary debate surrounding FMS and is even exacerbated by the rules of evidence that allow testimony on the phenomenon into the courtroom.
There are a number of interesting developments in the world of Circles of Support & Accountability. In an earlier blog, I referred to an international collaboration of COSA-friendly nations during a conference in Riga, Latvia. That collaboration has continued, and there is now a European Union group of folks continuing the dialog—proving that COSA is garnering truly world-wide interest. To date, COSA has been seen largely as a Canadian and British endeavor—with those two nations having projects of considerable tenure (17 and 10 years, respectively). However, it will be important for projects outside of those two nations to take center-stage to ensure the ongoing development of the Circles movement (if you can call it that). One of the greatest difficulties in seeding Circles of Support & Accountability—beyond recruitment of volunteers—has been establishment of the credibility of the model.
Wilson, R.J., Picheca, J.E., & Prinzo, M. (2007). Evaluating the effectiveness of professionally-facilitated volunteerism in the community-based management of high risk sexual offenders: PART TWO—A comparison of recidivism rates. Wilson, R.J., Cortoni, F., & McWhinnie, A.J. Circles of Support & Accountability: A Canadian national replication of outcome findings. Bates, A., Macrae, R., Williams, D., & Webb, C. (2011). Ever-increasing circles: A descriptive study of Hampshire and Thames Valley Circles of Support and Accountability. Journal of Sexual Aggression. In this recent review, data are presented showing the effectiveness of COSA in international jurisdictions. In the United Kingdom, COSA is managed by a registered charity known as Circles UK, which is charged with promoting use of this model in England and Wales. The UK COSA model is slightly modified from the Canadian original, in that most core members are still "under license" (British terminology for continuing to be supervised by Probation Services).
As such, COSAs in the UK are more formally situated within the statutory framework of criminal justice (i.e., MAPPA), whereas Canadian COSAs tend to focus on core members who are entirely post-sentence. Notwithstanding this difference, the bulk of the COSA work in the UK model remains with the voluntary sector, rendering the two models more similar than not. In their study, Bates et al. 60 core members for an average period of 36.2 months; however, with no control or comparison sample. Eight core members experienced behavioral difficulties related to sexual offending, resulting in five core members being recalled to prison for probation violations and two others being placed on a Sex Offence Prevention Order (i.e., an order of recognizance).
One core member (1.7%) engaged in behavior leading to a new sexual offense conviction. Overall, the UK findings are very much in line with those reported previously in Canada in the papers noted above. So, with the Bates et al. COSA model is neither regionally nor nationally specific—meaning that similar findings can be found in COSA projects whether they be located throughout a particular nation or from nation to nation. However, as many will attest (cf. American market is key. To date, only anecdotal data exist regarding the effectiveness of the COSA model in US jurisdictions. Currently, there are well-established COSA projects in California, Minnesota, and Vermont, with additional projects in the development or early stages in Colorado, Washington, and North Carolina, among others.
I recently had the pleasure of meeting with folks involved in the Minnesota Department of Corrections’ COSA project, known as MnCoSA. They have established nearly 30 COSAs and are gearing up to evaluate data that will speak to the effectiveness of the model in their state. Of particular interest is the fact that the MN-COSA project has used a random assignment design—by far the most statistically-elegant research project on COSA to date. In speaking with Joann Dillavou and Bill Donnay (collaborator Grant Duwe was unable to attend) of the MN DOC, it appears that preliminary data are showing markedly similar reductions to those observed in Canada and the UK. One last thing to note: I recently had the great pleasure of meeting with folks involved in two US-based COSA projects—specifically, those located in Denver, CO and Brattleboro, VT. Both Colorado and Vermont have been working on developing COSA projects for nearly a decade. At present, both projects are in receipt of funding from grants associated with the Second Chance Act.
